Domestic & Dating Abuse

What is abuse?

Domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviors in which one partner seeks to maintain power and control over the other partner. 

Dating abuse, like domestic abuse, is a pattern of behaviors in which one dating partner seeks to maintain power and control over the other dating partner. Dating abuse can happen at any age.

All types of abuse are serious and no one deserves to experience it.

There are many different types of abuse, including physical, emotional, financial, sexual and technological abuse. Abuse happens in all kinds of relationships - married couples, teenagers who are dating, young couples, couples have been together for many years or even in friendships.

Types of Abuse

Physical: Hitting, kicking, pushing, punching, slapping, choking, grabbing, throwing objects at a partner, threatening with a weapon, driving recklessly with partner in a car and/or refusing to help a sick partner.

Emotional: Constant criticism, making humiliating remarks, name-calling, mocking, yelling, swearing, making victim think she is crazy, making victim feel guilty and/or making impossible rules and punishing victim for breaking these rules.

  • Threats and Intimidation: Threatening to harm victim, children, family members, and pets. This includes putting partner in fear using looks, actions and gestures, shouting and/or smashing things and destroying property.
  • Isolation: Controlling what partner does, who he/she sees and talks to, where he/she goes and/or monitoring phone calls.
Financial: Withholding money, credit cards, keeping a partner from work or school, interfering with partner’s work or school, giving an allowance, withholding information and access to family finances and/or controlling how a partner spends money.

Sexual: Forcing sex on an unwilling partner, demanding sexual acts that the victim does not want to perform, degrading treatment and/or any intimate touching that it is unwanted. No one has the right to interfere with someone’s right to say no.

Technological: Using technologies such as texting and social networking to infringe on someone's private, technological life by bullying, harassing, stalking or intimidating a partner. Often this behavior is a form of verbal or emotional abuse perpetrated online.

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